Doug Anthony Hutchinson and Courtney Alexis Stodden: Legal Wedding

This 51 year old man was allowed to marry a 16 year old girl. Here are my thoughts.

XOXO Honey Bii

Dating Advice

"Do you have any suggestions as to what I can do to meet more mature educated black women?? Before you met your current girlfriend what were some of the things you would do to meet the people you like??.."

Our advice on where to find people to date.

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Stay Out Of Your Friends Business

Dear Honey Bii,

Hope you are well. I have found your question/answer videos very insightful in the past, so thought why not write you with an issue my friend is having because I am at a loss of what to do. For the past two years, one of my closest friends (who self-identifies as a lesbian/hard stud) has been in a relationship with a woman who claims she is bisexual, but in my opinion is simply straight and sexually open when it benefits her. I hate identifying for others, but as a queer woman myself I take great offense to straight women who say they are bisexual, but will never be in a relationship with another woman or treat another woman with the same respect/boundaries with which they treat men who are interested/pursuing them. Basically, what it comes down to is this straight woman tells my friend that she is in love with her and they are best friends (that occasionally sleep together), but then is still actively looking for a man and sleeps with lots of men. She refuses to admit that my friend and her are in any sort of relationship, and has even told people that my friend is a 'crazy lesbian' at times in order to make it seem that their 'relationship' is all in my friend's head. This woman acts possessive and jealous of my friend and gets made if she is not prioritized- she calls my friend numerous times throughout the day just to say she loves her, even when she is on dates with men or has just slept with them. She also has accepted money and childcare on a regular basis from my friend and gets mad when my friend is unable to support her or help her out financially. Besides that, she always writes loves notes on her facebook and other public pages to make her presence known. Needless to say all of this is preventing my friend from meeting new women who are actually interested in dating her and not just using her.

This whole mess has been going on for two years and it has made my friend depressed, insecure, and a pretty un-fun person. She will have two week periods where she is fed-up and tries to break away from this straight woman, but then the woman will call her sobbing saying she misses her friendship and can't they just be friends. They will become 'friends' again and then if my friend doesn't show her enough attention the woman will sleep with her to basically reel her back in (in my opinion). I don't know if this woman is simply ridiculously insecure or manipulative or both, but at this point I do not care. No grown person, no matter how confused or unhappy they are with their own life should be able to treat another person as she does my friend. That being said, no adult should allow another person to use them so blatantly for years.

I don't know what, if anything, I can do. Me and her other close friends have tried to get some sense into her head, but she keeps going back to this woman no matter how awful she is treated. I tried to be supportive and just listen to my friend when she was upset time and time again, then I tried being honest and letting her know that after a certain point she really could only blame herself because this straight woman has been consistent and she is allowing herself to be used, but it has been two years and it is still happening! I know its harder when you are in these sort of situations, but this woman has never, and will never, actually date my friend and my friend is very traditional in that she wants a monogamous wife one day. What, if anything, can I say or do? I wish it didn't bother me so much, because i know adults need to be able to lead their own lives, but my friend has become obsessed and depressed and is no longer the great woman she was before getting involved in this whole mess. At times I wonder if we can still be good friends, which I know is shitty, but the whole situation is beyond ridiculous and I am losing respect for my friend which makes me feel guilty.

Any suggestions or advice would be greatly appreciated.

Thank you!

XOXO Honey Bii 

Stages Of Love

Here are the different stages of love that I have went through in my committed relationships.

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Cover Letter

Here is an example of an awesome cover letter...

Attention Human Resources:

It is an exceptional feat to walk into the boss’s office on an interview and solicit yourself.  In essence, that is what happens when I step foot into any position that I am applying for.  It is clear that my present supervisor’s have faith in my work ethic.  More importantly, they believe in my ability to develop both a meaningful and successful outcome. Additionally it has more to do with my endless enthusiasm for creating meaningful relationships that add value to both my company and clientele.

For the past five years I have had the pleasure of having a full time position in the workforce directly after graduating from college. I transition very well as both an insurance agent and a mentor with my degree in psychology.  It has been a rewarding experience working in both realms of the business.  However, I am seeking a higher level of responsibility and stability that I believe your company can provide. I anticipate relocating to your company to advance my career.  I also plan to pursue advanced insurance titles in the future.

As an addition to your team, I am confident that I can hit the ground running with little formal training.  I am a fast learner and quite detail oriented.  I adjust well to new environments and meet every challenge with wit and creativity. I have experience in sales, claims, event planning, project research and development and creating and executing various types of outreach initiatives. 

I would like to learn more about your organization and identify how my qualifications would be a great fit. I look forward to hearing from you.

Sincerely,

Honey Bii

I Think My Girlfriend Is Cheating

OK I'm 32 w/ kids she is 31w/ kids we all live in the same house. Were two femms more so me she is. A very soft stud so she attracts a lot of woman OK right in the middle of our relationship when things were great she would take me and the kids out often buy me gifts random then she took a seasonal job @around Christmas time it was all good until she begin to literally sleep with her phone I brought her so I took a look @the bill just to find out that she was texting this young lady who she claim to have went to school with so. I Checked it out it was a lie so every since then I have been up tight when she leaves or is on _the. Phone there has been more then one incident with this same girl emails and secret meetings @ her Best friends house which makes me not trust her best friend now plus she's not gay and she always have something negative to say when we argue and my girl doesn't seem to think that's a problem that I don't really have anyone to vent _to because all my friends are single and straight so the frustration is heavy I recently packed up and left but two days later I'm back but it feels so strange we are not into each other like we were she's always on the phone with high-school friends I never met. Or online talking is almost nonexistent I love her and really want to fix things but when I watch your videos I just feel its over does she still want me ? oh and I have only been with two other woman sexually only but after dating her I'm not wanting to be with men any more but that's all that hit on me help honey BII plz

Honey B wrote:

Give me more information about the situation. What happened? What are your prior trust issues. I look forward from hearing from you :)
XOXO Honey Bii

Hi I really enjoy ur u tube videos and want to know how to forgive my partner.
Of 2 1/2 yrs for an alledge affair I haven't yet proved she cheated but I love
her and yes this is my first live in relationship with a woman I wanna move out
and get my own place but afraid because of the prior trust issues.

XOXO Honey Bii 

22 And Confused

Letter from a Bii-Liever. 


I just turned 22 n I'm still living with my mom. I've been sheltered my entire life and I feel like its time for me to move forward in life instead of staying stuck like I am,plus my mom hates that I like women. Most of my friends are gay, but I don't hang with them because of her. I mean I could but when I come back home I still gotta hear her mouth and I hate it ugh! I'm also conflicted with the fact that I love women and I'm also a Christian. Please help me. I just don't know what to do it's so confusing and hard. I have not been in a relationship since 2008. My first love broke my heart and now it's like anybody else for dumb stupid reason, I compare them to her. Ugh. It's crazy because my mom liked my girlfriend until I told her she was my gf. Please if you can help me to figure out what I should do?

Peace and Love


I want to first state that being open with your sexuality can be quite challenging. I commend the effort that you have taken to be yourself.

When it comes to parents, it is a difficult situation to deal with. Parents for the most part want the best for their children. With that being said, it is your life to live. I would start off by living on your own. It is easier for someone to have control over your life when they are providing for you. We have all heard the saying, "If you in my house, you go by my rules."

The next step that I would take is to have an open discussion with your mom. Let her know that you are serious and need not only to be heard, but to be listened to. If you are uncomfortable with pulling her aside then write a letter. I would state to her that this is the last time that you are going to explain your sexuality to her. Either she is going to support you or not. No "ifs", "ands", or "buts". If she wants to have an open loving relatinship with you then she needs to recognize this part of your life as well.

You can view a video blog that I did on Christianity on my page. That is an entire discussion on its own. I included it for you.

In conclusion, remember that you are only 22. You have years to figure out relationship issues. Take it one day at a time. There is somebody out there for everyone. Make sure that whoever you are with is open with their sexuality, loving, and makes you feel positive when you are with them.


XOXO Honey Bii 

Dark Skin Girls

This was inspired from the color complex issues that we still have in the black community.  Here is the video link http://vimeo.com/24155797.  As Directed by Bill Duke and D. Channsin Berry: these are clips from the upcoming documentary exploring the deep-seated biases and attitudes about skin color---particularly dark skinned women, outside of and within the Black American culture.

XOXO Honey Bii

Drag Queen Tuck

Ever wonder how the queens tuck??? Check it out.

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Coupons

Do you want to save money? Listen to this quick video on how to properly use coupons.

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Gay Christians

Is being Gay a sin? Can you be a Christian and be Gay? Here are my thoughts.

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Communication

This is some candid advice that I have on communication in a relationship. Thanks for viewing. 


Communication is the activity of conveying meaningful information. Communication requires a sender, a message, and an intended recipient, although the receiver need not be present or aware of the sender's intent to communicate at the time of communication; thus communication can occur across vast distances in time and space. Communication requires that the communicating parties share an area of communicative commonality. The communication process is complete once the receiver has understood the sender. -Wikipedia

XOXO Honey Bii 

Friends With Benefits

Hi Honey,

I am in my mid 20s and I got out a relationship with a women about 6months ago and I've recently began dating again. I was approached by a women that found me attractive, and I was also very attracted to her as well. As this women approaches me she states that she is "new to this" and further explains that she has never been with a women before, but has often had thoughts about being with women. I began to talk to her on a some what regular basis first just answering her questions then we grew to get to know each other on a more personal level. It has been about a month and we both noticed we formed a connection and often thought about one another. At this point my feelings have gotten involved and I have pretty much developed a crush on this women, but I am hesitant to continue talking to her afraid that she might just be curious sexually. I have heard many stories and advice from others not to pursue women that are curious because you will get hurt and it is just an experiment. So my question to you is what should I do? Should I pursue this women or should I just ignore my feelings before they get to deep and just have a friendship?

Thanks Honey Bii

XOXO Honey Bii

Farewell to Oprah: Smile

Oprah taught me how to smile...

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Cancer Awareness

I rock a bald head in support of Cancer Awareness. 

I Wear A Pink Ribbon By Kimberly Harris 

A silent killer with no face.

A thief within the night.

A constant battle for my life

A bitter evil fight.

The scars remind me of the day

It knocked at my souls door.

It tried to rob me of my strength

It left me on the floor.

To survive, I had to sacrifice

My Breast and even my hair

It showed no pity as it snatched

These things without a care.

I started to give up my fight

I felt I could take no more

Then God reached down and

Gently picked me up off the floor.

He wiped my face and blew my nose

Just like my mama use to do.

He said don’t cry my child

For I have things in store for you.

I did not bring you all this way

to leave you high and dry.

I love you and you are my child

So hold your head up high.

There is nothing that I cannot fix,

No pain I can’t erase.

Have faith and know that I am here

There is nothing you can’t face!

So then I threw my hands up high

And gave God all his praise!

For my soul has been uplifted

And my SPIRIT has been raised!

I’ll fight this fight with cancer

And I know I will be fine.

For God said it and I know its true,

That VICTORY is mine!!

XOXO Honey Bii 

Elder's Advice

Here are 5 Universal Truth's that I know are true. Advice handed down from my elders.

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Zumba

Here is a great Zumba video that I would like to share. This is great for beginners. I enjoy Zumba because it is an active way to keep it shape. It makes working out fun.



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I Found Text Messages From Her Ex Lover

Hey Honey!

So me and my sweetie have been together for almost a year and it has been wonderful. I see true longevity here. I'm at the point of the relationship that trust and honesty need to be guaranteed if we're really going to do this for the long run. So what did I do, go through her phone. Yeah, I'm disappointed in my actions but its the guaranteed way to find out the real deal with your mate. Judge me later.

In her texts I found out that she has still been communicating with a "friend" of hers that she used to date. About a month ago we had an argument over this situation because I don't necessarily think its fair that she can be friends with someone she used to sleep with but would have a fit if I did the same thing. Now in all fairness I do know that they are just friends now, but I think its a respect thing too.  I choose not to hang with any of my ex's or old Boos because I think it would be disrespectful. Now correct me if I'm wrong, but any time two people are intimate with one another, I think its rather difficult (not impossible) to go to a platonic relationship.

Any way back to the subject: So I found out that they're still talking but she told me she was going to stop communicating with her.  (Although I didn't say she had to. this was her decision). Now I'm pissed because she lied to me. But I cant say anything because I was snooping in her phone. What to do HoneyBii. Help!

XOXO Honey Bii 

Hypocrite

I am a Lesbian woman. I came out to my children about years ago. They flipped out. It took awhile for them to deal with the fact that their mother is gay. I couldn't understand why they had a problem accepting me because a lot of our family is gay. ( fast forward) I came the other day and my daughter wanted me to meet one of her friends. So I walked into her room and I seen an "obvious lesbian" sitting in the chair. I almost hit the floor. I was confused, my daughter was the number one person protesting about me being gay. I just stood there and stared at this girl. When her company left I ask her what was the deal with the girl. She told me the girl liked her, I said to her but your not gay? right?. She said that her and the girl have been in a relationship for about a month. ( shocked again) I had a long talk with her and talked about the discrimination she will experience and etc, etc..

To be honest I don't like it at all, I'm confused and a little angry over her choice to be gay, but I know I Know you are saying I'm gay. I just don't understand why I have a problem with it. Please some advice with this. Also, I told her don't tell her siblings about this...

XOXO Honey Bii 

Carol's Daughter Sold Us Out

Here are my thoughts on the new 2011 Carol's Daughter campaign.

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